A good home

 About where one, Buys, Lives, Receives  No Responses »
Dec 122010
 

Home is a special place, and of course everyone wants one that is good. But no one has the privilege of choosing the home into which he or she is born. And during the first decade or so of one’s life, there isn’t much that anyone can do to change one’s home.

It is nice if one’s home is comfortable, cozy and warm when it needs to be and fresh and cool when it needs to be. It is generally expected that one’s home is a safe place in which to be. And that safety would probably be provided by the adult residents of the home who love each other and you and your siblings. So a home is expected to be a comfortable and safe place in which a family can live in loving relationships. It is these qualities that make a home different than a house, which is only a physical structure.

But everyone may not have a good home, a special place where they can be comfortable and safe. Some people today are “homeless”, which means that they don’t have a personal permanent comfortable and safe place in which to live. Some infants and young boys and girls have been denied the blessings of living in the home of the parents to whom they were born, so they are orphans. Maybe some of them have been adopted by other adults who will provide them with a home, which should be a comfortable and safe and loving place in which they live.

In this holiday season of the year, and during this time of extensive economic stress and uncertainty, it is well to give some thought to what makes for a good home. What makes your home good? How much “stuff” does it take to make a home good? What could make it better? Let’s talk about this.

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 Posted by Bob1 at 4:57 pm  Tagged with: dependent relationship, economic stress, family members, financial crisis, good feelings, homeless, orphans, relationships

Good reasons for banning gay marriages

 Believes, Does, Featured, Thinks  7 Responses »
Aug 272010
 

Banning the same-sex marriages of homosexual men and lesbian women should not be done because such relationships are considered to be “sinful” by some citizens. Adultery is considered to be “sinful” by some citizens, but I don’t believe that it is against any laws. It may break up a marriage, destroy a family, or end a career, but I don’t believe that anyone is strictly breaking any law by committing adultery. Marriage vows would normally be broken by such an act, and the abused spouse could sue for divorce, but the guilty spouse would not be arrested just for having sex with another consenting adult. On the other hand, it is against the law for an adult to have sexual relations with a minor, even if the minor individual consents to it.

Laws of society are basically enacted by legislative bodies to protect its citizens from harm and abuse. And many of these laws are specifically written to protect children and women from abuse. It may be commonly recognized that when a man has sexual relations with a woman, it establishes a dependent relationship between that man and the woman and their child. And society has a stake in that relationship, because the woman and particularly the child may become dependents of the State,  if the man doesn’t provide for their care. Many welfare laws are written and enforced to protect women and children from abuse by men, even in relationships that are consummated in accord with “common law” and that don’t necessarily produce children.

Therefore, since the relations of consenting men with men and consenting women with women, even if such relations are sexual in nature, doesn’t involve any particular risk of abuse for any of the adults and no children can be produced from such relationships, adults who choose to enter such relationships should not be given the protecting legal rights that are particularly written for men and women who choose to get married. Homosexual and lesbian relationships can be easily broken without any legal consequences or responsibilities to be imposed on anyone, but that is not the case in any marriage relationship. That is due to the rights of the dependents in such marriage relationships.

I haven’t seen these principles of social law being applied to the growing problems and controversial concerns that our society and our citizens are facing in regard to the proposal that the rights of marriage should now be extended to include relationships between adult men with adult men and adult women with adult women. Let’s move away from the moral issue of “sin” in this matter, and take a very careful look at the real factor of social legal protections that are the basis for our traditional laws of marriage. Since marriage laws are basically written to protect dependent children and women from abuse, and since there are no risks of such dependent needs for children and women in homosexual and lesbian relationships, therefore the rights and legal protections of marriage should not be granted to gay adult men and women in their relationships with other gay adults. Marriages between gay men and lesbian women should be banned because of this reason. What do you think about this argument? Let’s talk about this!

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 Posted by Bob1 at 4:04 pm  Tagged with: common law, dependent relationship, marriage, related news topic, same sex marriages, sexual relations

Gift of emotional support

 About Christianity, Does, Wants  9 Responses »
Jul 102010
 

If you are engaged in giving or receiving emotional support with someone, you are engaged in a process that is a special gift to both of you. You just may be trying to encourage a friend or your spouse who has recently lost his or her job. Maybe a neighbor just came down with a “bug”, and needs some help for a few days. Or maybe one of your coworkers just went through a divorce. Or maybe you are responsible for the ongoing care of an parent who has become disabled by a serious stroke or disease, and they will need a lot of emotional support everyday as they struggle with their changing circumstances. All of the various problems that are currently troubling our society are creating a growing group of thousands of people who are in daily need of some emotional support from someone else. Their cases are reported everyday on the news, particularly if they live in any of the gulf states.

Part of their needs may be financial, but the bigger, more important part, is probably more personal. It has to do with how they are going to adjust to their changing situation. Oil companies, banks, government agencies, and even churches, synagogues, or mosques can’t provide the quality of emotional support that is needed by many people today. Such emotional support can best be provided by a friend who really cares and with whom you don’t need an “appointment” to see.

For some additional commentary on this matter see my statements on encouragement and care givers on my website. There is a big need for this good gift of emotional support in our society today. How much “paper work” should be completed before one can get this type of support? Why can’t the big agencies with money and personnel provide this kind of support? What does a person need in order to provide good emotional support to someone else? Let’s talk about this matter.

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 Posted by Bob1 at 9:15 am  Tagged with: a personal matter, care givers, dependent relationship, emotional support, encouragement, family members, love and affection, relationships

Golden years

 Does, Wants  2 Responses »
Feb 122010
 

Your golden years are suppose to be experienced after you retire when you are no longer controlled by the daily grinds of work schedules and raising children. Your days are suppose to provide you with numerous opportunities to relax, enjoy a variety of available pleasures, meet with friends and family as you wish, travel to where you want to go, and generally do what pleases you. But if you are filled with the aches and pains of arthritis, or facing the fears of a heart attack, or hampered by the effects of a stroke, or loosing your mental capacities from the effects of the Alzheimer’s disease, or trying to care for someone who is suffering from the effects of these physical problems, then you may not be experiencing any golden years. Maybe your family relationships are filled with more tension and bitterness than with love and pleasant memories, so this avenue of “golden” fellowship is not available to you. Maybe the funds that you regularly invested in your nest egg to cover your financial needs during these golden years have been severely depleted by the recent recession, so your days are filled with more worries than pleasures. What good experiences are you having in your golden years? If you are still oppressed by some of these physical and family problems or financial problems and concerns, what can you do to bring some “golden”, some good, experiences into these years of your life? Let’s talk about this.

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 Posted by Bob1 at 3:31 pm  Tagged with: a personal matter, Alzheimer's disease, dependent relationship, financial operations, good health, old age, worries
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